So... in a nutshell (for those of you who don't want to read this whole post)... we are waiting for our referral and we have NO IDEA how long we will be waiting, it could be a week (probably not!) and it could be another year (hopefully not!)
I began writing this post in November. In November we were excited that it had been one year since we switched to the Haiti program from Ethiopia. One year mark in most adoption journeys is a little bit of a turning point, when things seems to start moving along. The Haiti program is not proving so. I began writing this post but was hopeful we would hear some exciting news to write about... that also is not proving so.
Another mama (who is also waiting for her referral) drew this comic strip to help her "pain" through her waiting and I have enjoyed it as well (please note: only people who have truly waited for something similar might think it is funny, its kinda silly but SO TRUE!)
The wait is hard but we always try and remember these things:
- (and the biggest) God has a plan for us and our family, current and future members.
- Our family (at home family) has had some speed bumps during our waiting process. We have been able to get through these circumstances without trying to fit in a trip to Haiti for 2 weeks into the mix. Ethan had his 5th surgery (in 3 years), which should also be his last (YAY!) He is on the road to recovery and having his shoulder fixed now he will be able to swing, play and carry our son and other children in the orphanage without the risk of being in pain! Evaleena had her tethered cord surgery. She should be on the road to recovery soon (we are still in the hospital which is why I have time to write this post!) This way surgery is done and out of the way and hopefully she can come with us to Haiti (on the second trip to bring her brother home).
- Other families have been waiting longer than us. In addition to that I know a few couples who have no children at home and all they long for is to have children in the home. People who have tried years to have children and want nothing more than have children call them "mom and dad". Although the waiting is long and hard to explain to a 3 and 6 year old, I am thankful we have two beautiful children home that can wait with us and cuddle us when we need it!
- Many families have been waiting much longer than us! Although we hurt for them, we are thankful that we aren't saying (YET) that we have been waiting 2+ years. We know other families that took 4+ years to get their children home from Haiti. We pray everyday that we wont take that long but we are thankful we are hurting as bad as these families are (or were), YET!
Without going into all the details the hardest news lately is that Haiti has put birth parent interviews on hold for a few more months. They give the reasoning that they are playing catch up and getting other files out of the office and further along in the process before they continue with the files that are still waiting for their official referral.
So again... in a nutshell we are learning the art of patience, we have no idea when we get to go meet our son (although we hope it isn't much longer than this summer), and for now we are taking the time to grow as a family at home, enjoying our children and staying busy.
The last update we have that is EXCITING, between fundraising, grants and generous gifts our adoption is fully paid for (except for maybe a little bit for our trips). We pray we don't loose any of our grants due to the length of time our adoption is taking but they have assured us we should not!
Thank you to everybody who has show us love and support.
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